Self-Led

by Seth Kopald, PhD

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Release date: Nov 30, 2023

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About the Book

Self-Led walks you through the building of authentic relationships with yourself and with others. While reading Self-Led, you will gain a thorough understanding of what Internal Family Systems (IFS) refers to as your Self and your parts. You will learn how to form relationships with your parts by listening and understanding them. You will also learn how to be Self-led in some of the most important aspects of your life: in intimate relationships, at work, while parenting, and in your own spirituality. By becoming Self-led, you will live a more harmonious life.

What People are Saying About Self-Led

I’m so grateful that Seth Kopald shares the vision of bringing IFS to the world and this short, easy-to-read and practical book is one of several steps he is taking in that direction. In it, he helps us envision what Self leadership might look like in the most important areas of our lives: in our intimate relationships, at work, as we parent, and in our spiritual lives. Thank you Seth for this lovely contribution to the movement.

DICK SCHWARTZ, PHD, Creator and Founder of IFS

Seth has written a clear, concise, wonderful book about how to live a connected life with yourself and others following a Self-led approach. I highly recommend this book that applies Internal Family Systems (IFS) to everyday life.

MICHI ROSE PhD, MAT, LMSW

Seth Kopald has written a beautiful book called Self-led. Seth takes us through ways we can be more Self-led in all aspects of our lives. He does a beautiful job of inspiring and connecting us to become more Self-led in the world. Well worth the read.

KAY GARDNER, Lead trainer of IFS

A simple, clear, and heartfelt little book packed with a lot of power! By way of concrete examples, explanations, and experiences for different facets of our daily lives, Seth bestows gentle guidance for understanding and achieving inner and outer harmony (what we call Self-leadership in IFS). If there was required reading for life, this book would be on the syllabus!

MICHELLE GLASS, Certified IFS Level 3 Practitioner, Speaker, and Author of Daily Parts Meditation Practice™: A Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists

“Self-Led” is an accessible introduction to IFS, showing a path to healing that is grounded in practice and experience. The examples in each chapter are personal and yet universally relatable, and the exercises at the end of each chapter are eye-opening and helpful. The wisdom of this work has corollary principles in other practices and disciplines, and thus can support rather than threaten other counseling or spiritual modalities. What I especially like about this book is how Seth Kopald’s wisdom gained from years of teaching and learning shines through in what he’s sharing with us.

TRACY BENNETT, Associate Puzzle Editor and Wordle Editor for the New York Times